70: Is Your HOME the Reason You’re MENTAL HEALTH Sucks Right Now?

70: Is Your HOME the Reason You're MENTAL HEALTH Sucks Right Now? Meant to Bloom

I could cite numerous studies that link the connection between your mental health and your physical environment, but I’ll let you Google that yourself. In this episode I’m joined by Tasha Brendible (host of Turned Up with Tash Podcast) to chat about the affects our home can have on our health, as well as sharing her professional tips for simple and effective cleaning when you feel totally overwhelmed already. 

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What’s the connection between your home and your mental health?

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B: Hello friends. Welcome to another episode of Meant To Bloom. Today I have a new guest here, it’s Tasha, and I would love you to introduce yourself to us, Tasha. 

T: Hi. Thank you for having me, Brit. This is Tasha Brendible I’m from Alaska. Y’all like, you know the 9 0 7? No, we don’t live in ACLUs. I just recently started a podcast, Turned Up with Tash.

I think we have three entire episodes going, so we have to check that out. But I’m a small town girl. I’m here to spread the message about mental health and like your environment. So my heart is with helping people realize that there’s nothing wrong with them, but that there are ways to work around all that and, and make life enjoyable and not so stressful.

B: Awesome. I love that so, so much. So let’s go ahead and chat today, like how your environment actually affects your mental health, cuz that’s something that I feel like we hear about a lot, but do we really understand it? Maybe, or like, what does it really mean to have your environment affect your mental health?

T: Yes. That’s a great question. So the studies show that what’s going on in your mind? Is like your space, your home environment, like your rooms, if they’re cluttered, that’s what’s going on in your mind. It’s that direct relationship that you are, you know, if you’re really scattered and you’re all over the place, likely the environment that you’re in is gonna reflect that. So that could be at home, it could be at work, it could be even your vehicle, you know, anywhere where you spend a lot of time, a lot of people, I like paralyzed by that and they’ll just blinder through, you know, spaces because they just can’t even deal with it and they don’t even know where to start.

So I’ve experienced that, you know, the clutter is really clutter in your mind.

B: It’s really crazy how those two, how those match up. So yeah, I’ve been in a struggle with like, decluttering for years, you know, I’m not gonna – words are important – I’m not gonna say it’s a struggle. I’ve been on the journey of Uncluttering for a few years and it’s absolutely true. I can see when I work in one room, how differently I’ll feel and it seems like every time I start to declutter my home – everything else in life almost kind of starts to take off a little bit better too. 

T: Yeah, it’s just really, something that you kind of have to just start.

You could pick a room and then you pick an area or a thing, you know, and start with that. Because really your breed is just like already overloaded enough and you’re trying to think about that whole big giant picture. Even if you narrow it to one thing and you just start checking it off, it really, really helps.

I tend to be someone who, you know, we get a lot of stuff in the mail and it just gets crammed into cabinets and hide it or everything’s all over the counter and you have guests come see, they’ll like shove it in drawers, you know, and then you leave it like that, and I’m a big proponent of just taking, one action step at a time with one thing at a time, you know, to work on that.

Because once you start doing it, then what happens is that domino effect. You make it to where you can keep up with it, by using those, those tactical tips, just one thing at a time, set a timer like for 10 minutes and work on one thing, you know, and maybe use a 30 day calendar or 30 day window to help you.

B: Oh, absolutely. Keeping it bite sized is such, Oh, it’s, it’s, it feels so difficult when you’re trying to start it too, because you’re like, oh, I’m so excited, I wanna do that. And then, you’re just like, I don’t wanna just do 10 minutes today. I’m gonna go into a burnout. 

T: And that’s really, sometimes all you need is just allowing yourself and knowing that that’s just enough time –  that’s enough. There’s parents out there raising human beings, you’re trying to keep those kids going and that’s such a full-time job. And if you’re working, it’s like the last thing you want is to take time away from your children that you’re spending, making memories to be worried about, you know, spending two hours cleaning your.

You know, just take 10 minutes when you have time for napping or time that they’re at school or something that you can Right. You know, take one action. So, yeah. Absolutely. Would you wanna tell us a little bit about your journey on how you got started with this? Yeah. So I think it started back as a kid, you know, I think as kids would have those rooms, we couldn’t even walk through because we’re kids like, we don’t wanna deal with our laundry.

We don’t wanna put our toys away. Or we just, you know, we’re in a hurry, and as they got older, older, you know living on my own, there ain’t no one to pick up after me. So I would make sure that I made time to do those adult things and just slowly tackle it and force myself to keep organized with, you know, good time management.

You know what I mean? And nowadays, you know, I’ve been on my own for quite a few years, you know, and it’s still hard. I’m 43 and I don’t wanna deal with laundry with disclosure. There’s some right there, but I’ll just say that it’s been something that I worked on for a number of years and honestly as I’ve gotten older, like I’ve gone through the phase of, it’s really good to like going backwards to now I just take my own advice and I’ll throw my earbuds in and I’ll just get to work on something.

Like I’ll tell my husband, Kade, leave me alone for 10 minutes. I have to tackle this cuz it’s, it’s just, I walk by it and I’m just like, I can’t. So that journey has just been giving me grace and learning to take little bite size steps at a time to keep myself going and keep me organized and not worry that not every single thing is in its place.

B: Crazy. Oh, I love hearing that because I feel like that’s actually like a really similar kind. In this whole like, like an arc of how you get to where you are getting to like a good, mentally healthy place in reflection of your home, because I did so much of the same thing. I was like, you just start out like drowning.

You can’t enter rooms and you just, it’s all just like festering and feels really gross and. Everything feels like it’s falling apart and you’re super overwhelmed all at one time. And then you get like super gung-ho like, oh, I’m gonna clear things and clutter things and I’m really gonna get my whole life together.

And then it doesn’t work out. And you just kind of keep going back and forth between that until eventually you’re just like, it’s okay. I’m gonna give myself grace and I’m gonna do the best I can. We’re gonna do one thing at a time. Small chunks. I can make this room 10 minutes better in 10 minutes, it’s like Mel Robbins says like, the 1% better. 

T: Yeah, yeah. Just focus on it like a tiny baby step. Baby steps still move you forward and once you like to get past the whole, like, I need to do it all right now, and you get to where you’re okay just doing a little bit and feeling really good about that and feeling very empowered about taking small steps.

I think that’s one of the healthiest places you can get. Yeah, absolutely. It’s like you build confidence, as Kacia (Ghetmiri) has always said, those tiny action steps put confidence, you know, in your bucket and it really is true, you know, we always feel like, especially as women have to like do all the things, and I’m blessed that my husband actually, he helps around here quite a bit.

But you know, we work a lot, we work hard and we’re tired. We’re not raising kids anymore, so it’s just us. We don’t really have as many, you know, reasons behind, behind all that. But I think as we age too, you just kind of start to slow down. So, and realizing too that you can ask for help. Like you can always hire somebody, which I’m hired a lot to do this for other people, and I myself try to keep someone that can come once a month just to take a little load off.

And once you get a little help like that too can be that other action step to help you take the rest of those little steps, which I find helps people, you know, even my. Like feeling a breath of fresh air. It gives them that like, okay, now it’s manageable because I got some professional services to help me and not rely just solely on yourself.

And so that’s another thing that you could always do, not all housekeepers are really expensive. Yeah, you could always ask for it as a gift, and that’s something that I have found with my clients, that they feel so refreshed, like it’s a fresh start, and takes that pressure off of them, you know, for a little while.

B: Yeah. I had an amazing experience having someone come in to clean my house. I took my kids and we went and played at the park and I was just sitting there thinking like, oh my goodness. I’m actually like here at the park. I’m not sitting here like watching the clock. Like, we really need to get home so I can get to the dishes.

We really need to get home so I can go do everything that I’m putting off right now. I actually had this moment of absolute zero guilt, totally present and like even better because I knew I was gonna come home to a house that was cleaner than what I left for real. Right. And it was, and they were, I had them come in to do a deep clean.

And so they were getting to like window tracks and all the stuff that I never remembered to. It felt so good and it was a one time thing. That has had this lasting effect of being like, wow, that felt so good, and you know, you only have to have a deep clean, what, like six months, something like that.

Getting in there and everything. It’s kinda like a spring clean, and having someone else do that was so amazing. I’m like, yeah, that was so great. And then I had another gal who wants to come clean my house for me for like really cheap because she’s just now starting her house cleaning business.

And it’s just her. And like, she doesn’t even, she doesn’t even have a vacuum yet. That works great. So she was like, can I use your vacuum when I come and I. Wow. What a great resource, because I found her in one of the local Facebook groups. Yeah. Awesome. If you’re worried about a housekeeper costing too much, Reach out to your local groups and see if someone wants to start a business and is willing to come in and do it for super cheap so that they can get some before and after photos of what their work looks like.

T: Yeah, advocating. Yeah. I think that’s fantastic that you’re gonna allow someone who’s brand new because Yeah, they’re scared too, you know? Yeah. Like it’s super, even if you have experience in doing the work, like I used to do this as a kid for extra money. And when my world kind of crumbled, which actually today is one year since my dad passed Brit, it’s been one year, and I had a coffee shop.

I had a very successful drive-through that I had closed just before. Empower Her. In September. Wow. And, I did that because I realized life was short and that I had more to offer to the world in helping people. And I’ve always wanted to help people and I didn’t know how. You know, and obviously I have so much more I wanna do, but I knew that this was something that my community could use, you know?

And that I could get right to work on, I could support us, you know, and just do that. And I’m finding that I am being empowered.  by them, by my clients telling me like, wow, like I almost cried when I got home. Or I did cry cuz it was just such a weight lifted. And it’s simple, y’all, it’s house cleaning, it’s uncluttering, but you don’t realize how much that really affects your mental health, like how you feel inside it. It devalues you when you feel like you just can’t even do that cuz you don’t have the energy or you just don’t even know where to start. And sometimes it’s just reaching out to someone to, to inspire you to actually take those action steps.

Cause I have had one client I talked to just on messenger. And she did it herself. She didn’t even need me. So really, if you have the resources to do that, yeah. Grab someone who’s new. I’m excited to hear from you about how that experience went. Maybe you’ll share that. 

B: That’s awesome. Um, wow.

Thank you so much for sharing that. I feel like the energy of everything you just said, That was powerful. So house cleaning, it is simple, but sometimes it can be really hard to just do it, you know, you know exactly how to do it. You know, you know what needs to be done.

But that’s getting started,do you have any quick tips on getting into it? 

T: You know, for me, like what I, what I would say is that, you know, if you have like even a 10 or 20 minute window of time in your day or you make yourself block that time, What I would recommend you do is just turn on some music, put your earbuds in, turn a Alexa on or something, turn a podcast on.

Listen to one of us. Listen to Brit, listen to anything, and just pick the very most important tasks to do. And I would have to say one really big thing is always your dishes. Folks you don’t want, that is something that is ultimate. Okay. Don’t worry about the laundry just yet. Make sure that your dishes are done.

You know, give yourself that kitchen that doesn’t make you feel so if it’s unloading and loading the dishwasher, That’s fantastic. People like, that’s a lot. Okay. Your bathroom, just rinsing your sink, your counter, like a quick whisking of the toilet even, you know, and emptying your trash.

Like, just the things that for when you walk into a space, you don’t feel so overwhelmed in those spaces. You know darn well we’re always in, so I highly recommend it. Kitchen, bathroom, like give yourself 10 minutes in each room if you can. If you have like a nap time with your children, it’s a good time too.

You know, if they nap for an hour, make sure you take half an hour for you and then the rest.  towards a task, but you know, would make you feel like better. Maybe if there’s one thing that gives you the most anxiety, start with that first. So that’s what I always recommend, and sometimes you just gotta make that time for you, even when you’re feeling like, ugh.

Cuz I promise you your energy level will go up when you do spend that time. It’s just like you give yourself that, you know, your endorphins go up because you’re like, oh my God. Like I actually had time to do that. So I would highly recommend that. And just give yourself some grace, you know? 

Don’t try to tackle everything all at once. 

B: Okay. I love that. Don’t go overboard and burn yourself out. Do 10 minutes. 10 minutes better every day. 

T: Yeah, for real. It’s so useful. Yeah, 10 minutes every day, seven days a week. If you could even do that, that’s 70 minutes on your house people. That’s a lot. And you can do so much in that short amount of time. Believe me, when you know you only have that much time, you’re like, you can get a lot done. Makes you feel good.

B: Awesome. Okay. Thank you so much for being here today, Tasha. You’ve shared so many wonderful things, and I cannot wait for my listeners to hear this episode,

Thank you. Where can I send my listeners to connect with you? 

T: Oh, man. So I have a podcast now called Turned Up with Tash, and I’m also on Instagram at Tasha.Brendible.. Inbox me and let me know that you’ve listened to this episode with Brit. Tag us. If you listen to my podcast, please tag me too. Reach out if you have any questions or need some help, I’m here to help you out. Yeah, awesome. Thank you so much. And I’ll put those, uh, your podcast and your Instagram links in the description of this podcast.

So easy to find. Guys. You just gotta click. Absolutely, ma’am. Let’s get this full rolling and let’s unclutter our minds by uncluttering our spaces. 

We got this. 

B: Yes. Thank you so much. 

T: Thank you, Brittni. It was a wonderful chat with you today. Best of luck to everybody. Please reach out to us.

About Me

Hi, I’m Brittni, a mom who’s determined to share my light, wisdom, and joyfulness with every mom. My desire is that every woman knows she is worthy of ease and joy and finds the encouragement and motivation to pursue her best life possible.

I live in rural Oregon with my husband and 3 sons. I never dreamed of being a boy-mom, but now I can’t imagine life not surrounded by toy dinosaurs, race cars, and fart noises.

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Hi, I'm Brittni, author, podcaster, transformational speaker, and a mom of 3 boys, passionate about helping moms overcome the overwhelm and actually ENJOY MOTHERHOOD.

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