87: Money Management, Financial Freedom & Empowered Motherhood with Dr Raquel Muller – Meant to Bloom
We’re supposed to be doing all things “in love,” but when society tells you it’s cooler to be a hot mess, have a bad attitude about all your responsibilities and count down the minutes until it’s “wine o’clock,” it can be even more difficult – because having love in your heart while changing a baby out of the third blow out diaper of the day isn’t already hard enough.
There’s a few reasons we struggle to feel love while going about our daily mom-life, and I’m going to unravel these for you today. In my corner of the internet, I’m known as The Happy Mom, but I wasn’t always this way. I was so overwhelmed with motherhood and homemaking and marriage and existence in general and I struggled with depression and anxiety disorders for far too long. But I overcame all that, and I’ve made it my mission to help other moms do the same.
In this episode we’re chatting about:
- How gratitude can rewrite your reactions
- Setting boundaries and saying no
- Having more fun, everyday
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3 Simple Practices to do Everything with Love
No more rage cleaning the kitchen and going about your days burnt out and emotionally drained, on edge and about to snap at your loved ones because you can’t get a dang break.
I got sick of my own attitude, sick of living day to day stressed and ashamed of the mess around me, I was sick of the guilt of not having the perfect home – when push came to shove, something had to give and chose to give up attaching moral values to the condition of my home. I put in the work – it wasn’t easy and I honestly didn’t know where to start. It took me years of trial and error to get it right. I learned to love my home by accepting my authentic self, growing to understand who I am when I’m in my home, and getting really good at giving myself grace to figure this all out.
I chose to prioritize my relationships, mental health and personal growth over my home and honestly letting go of the guilt in doing so was the hardest part of it all. I believe anything worth doing should be done from a place of love – not strain and stress and deep seeded anguish.
This journey of self acceptance and learning to care for my home in a more simple way led to the creation of Love Your Home – my newly completed course that teaches you all I’ve learned so far to shift your mindset about your home and show up in love while creating an environment of safety and sanctuary. Your home should serve you, not the other way around. Your home should be a source of rest, not stress. You should feel safe in your home, not anxious and ashamed.
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Today I want to share 3 ways to do everything in love – it’s time for an attitude adjustment.
Gratitude – deeply embrace the truth of your blessings
This is the tip that changed my life the most. I was a jerk – mentally rude and a bully to my own self. Gratitude helped me shift my perspective and choose to see blessings rather than burdens.
Here’s how you can practice gratitude that works: forget listing things in the morning – I want you to take the person or thing that’s frustrating you the most right now and sit with it, journal on it, how can you find positive things about this? Honestly, my husband, kids and home have been my greatest frustrations because proximity – and practicing regular gratitude in this way has helped me show up with love more often and be more understanding of others.
*If you’re looking for more help with gratitude, I created a Prompted Gratitude Journal to get you thinking about gratitude in new ways and to see the blessings in different areas of your life. The journal has 90 different prompts and is available on Amazon and in the Meant to Bloom Etsy shop – both linked below. More info can be found at brittniclarkson.com/journal
Let it go – stop doing some of the things you don’t love
Do less, boo. It becomes easier to do more in love when you do less of what you hate. I know there are things on your schedule, on your to-do list that you abhor doing and if you’re honest with yourself, you don’t really need to continue doing them. Give some thought to how you’re spending your time and decide on one thing to let go of – whether it’s something you truly hate doing – or something that you’re convinced you like but it always spikes your anxiety and wastes your time – like social media scrolling… choose to let go of something today,
Do more of what you love – do one thing everyday this next week that you genuinely enjoy doing.
I recently had a client who was struggling every Monday, because the day was so dang stressful for her. I feel like a lot of us can benefit from the task I gave her as a solution – Make Mondays Fun.
Whether it’s Monday, or laundry day, or a certain time every day that keeps showing up as a stumbling block for you – choose today one way you can make it more fun. Treat yourself to your favorite snack, or watch a Disney movie, or cranking the perfect playlist, whatever it is that you can add in to make it more fun. Do it. Don’t overthink it, just ask yourself: how can I make this more fun?
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Hi, I’m Brittni, a mom who’s determined to share my light, wisdom, and joyfulness with every mom. My desire is that every woman knows she is worthy of ease and joy and finds the encouragement and motivation to pursue her best life possible.
I live in rural Oregon with my husband and 3 sons. I never dreamed of being a boy-mom, but now I can’t imagine life not surrounded by toy dinosaurs, race cars, and fart noises.