I love the Autumn. Sweaters, bonfires, pumpkin spice donuts, wooly socks, crisp mornings. Fall is the absolute best for a girl like me, basic. But this time of year always gets me thinking, all of nature is changing, but am I? Am I shedding my dead leaves? Am I making room for growth? Am I doing that sacred inner work to be ready to bloom in the Spring-time?
Mama, our lives must go through seasons of change just as nature does. Life is always changing and growing and resting and blooming, and so must we!
Are you ready for a season of change?
First off, let’s note that I have an addiction to changing the name of my podcast. I previously hosted the Meant to Bloom podcast, then I left it to open a new show: I Get To, which I have now renamed Meant to Bloom because that name just vibes better with me, it’s my destiny and I cannot escape it.
Speaking of changes, let’s talk about seasons of change in life. It’s finally Fall here and I’m pretty sure the 85 degree days are behind us in the Pacific Northwest. The trees are shedding their leaves, the pumpkin spice is everywhere, birds are looking for warm adventures. This time of year always gets me thinking about seasons in life.
As mamas, we often go through a survival season at the beginning or when there’s an illness spreading through the house. Occasionally we find ourselves stuck in that survival mode and have a difficult time moving forward. We end up in this hot mess mom mindset because we’ve gotten used to everything being chaos, it’s what we begin to expect.
When this happens we get blinded to everything that’s truly important. We start to hyper focus on what’s on the to-do list. We stop acknowledging the blessings and abundance around us and instead give a lot of attention to the burdens.
I’m not sure you can be both a hot mess and a happy mom. When I was a certified hot mess, I wasn’t caring for myself, I was a literal mess, I was mentally unstable, my car was trashed, my home was wrecked, I was easily triggered, I was yelling at my kids, I was rude to my husband, I felt like I was broken.
I’m not talking hot-mess mom as a style choice – I’m currently rocking the leggings, oversized sweatshirt and messy bun. I’m totally into that. What I’m not into is being stuck in a place that isn’t working for me anymore. Surviving is not a long term solution. At some point you’re going to have to figure it out again.
Life is always changing. When we refuse to change with it, we end up feeling stressed and lost and confused and overwhelmed. It’s okay, we don’t have to feel guilty if we’ve been stuck. We don’t have to let stress guide us. I’m here to encourage you to get up and get moving. Guilt wob;t guide you where you want to go, it’s just going to keep you stuck in a mental cycle that inhibits your growth.
It’s time for you to wake up. As the leaves are changing and you’re pulling out the sweaters, it’s time to take inventory of your days. Are you living the life you want? This is the perfect time of year to realign your days with the life of your dreams. This is the time to make the changes, to focus, to grow, to expand.
It’s time to shed your dead leave, drop what’s not working for you. Did you ever know that when the trees shed their leaves, that’s when they are doing the most work? After they shed the dead leaves they begin the work of growing the new leaves that we won’t see until they bloom in the spring?
“Take care dear heart, you are blooming and Spring is coming.” Luna Lovett
Before you can bloom, you have to let the dead leaves fall. Go into a personal autumn, to the inner work, and see where you are in 6 months!
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