12: Learning to Love Yourself Right Where You Are

The main thing I’ve learned from blogging and starting an online business, letting myself be visible, you have to accept yourself as you truly are. No more building walls, no more masking, no more becoming who you feel you need to be fine tuned to who you’re talking to.

12: Loving Yourself Right Where You Are (and embracing the pieces you've been told were broken). Meant to Bloom

As a Peacemaker – Type 9 Enneagram, I don’t like to ruffle feathers, disagree openly, or cause any kind of stress or conflict to anyone. But that’s not authentic. It feels like you’re tailoring the conversation to who you’re with, but often it’s actually you editing yourself and hiding pieces of yourself because you’re afraid of rejection.

Don’t dilute yourself to please others. You can’t fulfill your purpose if you’re constantly trying to be someone else. You are perfect for your purpose, just as you are. If your purpose was meant for someone else, it would have been given to someone else, but it wasn’t. It was given to you, because it’s going to take being you to fulfill it.

In accepting yourself, you must become content with where you are while still striving for progress. We don’t fulfill our purpose by being distracted by negativity or comparison or ingratitude.

If you’re uncertain of what your purpose is right now – begin by tuning into yourself, into your soul. Strip away all the things that have been piled on you, all the limiting beliefs, everything you’ve been told is true about you, and realize you are capable of anything. You are designed for this life. You were put where you are with who you’re with for a reason. Get comfortable where you are, embrace your present, have joy where you are, be grateful for where you are, and you’ll soon be propelled forward to step into your purpose.

Happiness isn’t determined by your circumstances. It’s a choice you make. You choose not to be focused on the daily stresses. Keep your eyes where you are going. Be grateful in the trials, in your gifts, in your everything because it’s all moving you forward toward that purpose.

Give yourself grace – as much as you give others. You’re doing the best you can with what you have. Pay attention to where you are and what’s affecting you. Everything has a deeper meaning and cause.

When you stop holding grudges against the things you’ve done or experienced, let go of what’s not serving you, quit holding the resentment and you’ll find freedom. Allow yourself space to grow and room to learn. This is where you’ll find who you are and who you’re meant to be.

You may be buried under a load of crap – that’s okay. Crap is a great fertilizer. It’s going to help you grow bigger and stronger and to bloom more beautifully than ever before.

Where do you need to give yourself grace and forgiveness to pursue freedom and growth. Do you need to work on your body love, our spiritual love, or your mental love, maybe? What’s causing you to feel shame or guilt?

I can’t think of a nice way to say this, but shame and guilt are D-Bags. They are jerks and you don’t need them. They feed on negativity and making you miserable while making you think you need them. You don’t though. They aren’t serving you and it’s time to cut them loose.

God doesn’t give you guilt or shame – what He’s promised is conviction, which is very very different. Shame and guilt come from the enemy. You don’t need to feel guilt to be a good person. You don’t need to feel guilt to follow God. You don’t need guilt to pursue the purpose you’ve been called to.

Embracing yourself just as you are is the greatest act of rebellion in a world that’s telling you who and what to be. Try to see the light in every set back. Don’t let any labels that are put on you scare you away from fulfilling your purpose.

If you’re struggling to love who you are at the core, you’re likely believing lies others have told you. You’re distracted by the layers of crap that have been put on you, the labels other people decided, your past, the limiting beliefs that say you’re not enough. You might be distracted by the negative thoughts that keep recurring or the imposter syndrome that says you’re not qualified for your purpose.

If you’ve been called to it, you’re qualified for it. End of story.

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Published by Brittni Clarkson

Hi, I'm Brittni, author, podcaster, transformational speaker, and a mom of 3 boys, passionate about helping moms overcome the overwhelm and actually ENJOY MOTHERHOOD.

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