The First step to take to becoming a happy mom is to kill your negative thoughts and become your own hype woman. Let me walk you through exactly how to do this.
I was in a really bad place – mentally – a couple years ago. I was in a depressive episode and nothing felt good for a few weeks. There was one particular day when everything became too much. I didn’t wanna play the game anymore (the game being life).
My days had been filled with constantly growing to do lists and no motivation to complete them. My mind was filled with ideas that if I can’t get dinner on the table, that meant I was a worthless wife. I believed if my kids wouldn’t listen to me and be kind to one another, I’d failed as their mother. My heart was dark because my mind was clouded with lies.
On this one very particularly bad day, I walked out on my family. The second my husband got home from work, I stepped out, unsure of where I was going. I took a walk in the woods, while the rain fell. As I walked, contemplating my escape plan, I found a dead bird. Rotting. In that moment I had a clear knowing – that wasn’t the plan for me. Not right now.
I’ve been in and out of therapy for years for my depression and anxiety. I’ve been medicated. I’ve learned the foods that help. I know what kind of lifestyle changes need to happen to naturally relieve depression. I KNEW what to do – I just wasn’t doing it.
It’s like I was been trained by an Olympic swimmer on how to back stroke, but I’m sitting here wading the water, afraid to move because I forgot that I know how to swim.
That day changed my life. The day I saw the light. The day I was naturally baptized by that falling rain. The day I was woken up. I still picture myself in that forest, sitting on a mossy, wet log every time I work through a negative belief about myself.
The first thing I did to implement change: working through negative thoughts.
- IDENTIFY the thought – what thoughts keep recurring for you
- IDENTIFY the trigger – what’s the root of these, and daily triggers
- IDENTIFY the truth – dig deep, what’s true, create the affirmation
Your thoughts are not you. Your thoughts don’t even belong to you. Visualize your thoughts as just passing through your mind. You can invite some to stay, you can ask some to leave, you can put up a security system to keep some from returning. You are the gatekeeper to your mind.
After this major mindset shift happened for me, my life changed. It radically changed. Sometimes we don’t notice change in ourselves because we were there for the journey. I’ve recently been reminded of how I always walked around with a rain cloud over my head. People could feel the negative energy that was feeding on my soul. They don’t feel that in my presence anymore.
Becoming a beacon of light and positivity begins with what you allow yourself to belief. Just because you think it, doesn’t make it true. I encourage you to rethink everything you’ve been thinking. There is ease and joy to be found.
Overcoming negative thoughts are just the beginning. I spend 6 months growing out of depression, then I took all the tools and concepts I had used over that time and I wrote a workbook about it all, so that I can easily share HOW I did it with you. I told you the first step, this is the next. I hope you’ll join me on this journey to a life of ease and joy.